For those on twitter, this is exactly what I was hoping for by pleading for help on twitter. I have received much of my support through twitter.
James Karl Buck’s experience suggests that Twitter would be good for field workers and their support staff back home. One important facet of Twitter is that anyone can pick up your stream, and if it’s interesting, you may get an awful lot of people listening in: People who can answer questions and provide timely aid. (Twitter is apparently also used by journalists to float ideas with their fans–free market research, in effect.)
First of all, I would like to give a big thanks to those who have helped me by spreading the word either on their sites or through their networks. Those people include:
Bad Bad Ivy
Big Orange Michael
Your help has been truly valuable in getting this message out.
We now have a case worker with Elder Care, a government organization that is specifically designed to help the elderly people, working on tracking Ervin Tucker down. She has certain rights to information that we cannot get.
When last I updated, I mentioned that the police went by and no one was home. No change there. This is, however, reassuring in that we believe he may be in a hospital or a rehab center because of his broken hip and if this be the case, is getting better care than he would be at home.
As I continue to dialog with my mother, more and more details are being revealed about the alleged abuse coming from his wife and his step-daughter. Although the wife has played her role in the abuse and neglect, we also suspect that she might be a victim herself of elder abuse. I hope all details will be revealed and all parties get the justice that should be coming to them.
We are hoping that with the right legal intervention, we can get my 87 year old grandfather out of his current situation and into a more loving and stable environment. My mother spoke to one of his long time friends yesterday who said he would call to check on Ervin Tucker and the wife would tell him that it was not any of his business. I imagine he is feeling quite alone. As soon as I find out where he is, I will post here. Perhaps, if you are in the area, you might pay him a visit. Maybe a girl scout or boy scout troop leader will be reading this and rally the troops to go cheer an old man up?
With HIPPA laws these days, if there is any advice that I can give you about your loved ones, it is to be prepared. Keep record of SSNs, have living wills and stay in touch with the elderly. I, admittedly, have been so wrapped up in my own life that I have not been in contact with my grandfather for years. I am ashamed that I have left so much time pass. Don’t make the same mistake.
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